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Collected Quotes For The Month: June 2017

Collected Quotes For The Month: June 2017

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One’s happiness is one’s own to define and decide.Looking down on someone’s decision or making it for them is nothing but heavy-handed.

Chtholly.” SukaSuka

Remaining silent when one must speak is the slow death of freedom.
What Do I Care For Morning.” Queen Sugar

My mother always said when someone invites you to a new room, make sure you show up. Don’t go as someone else.
What Do I Care For Morning.” Queen Sugar

People ask me if you get nervous when you go on stage? It’s like asking a pilot if he gets nervous before a flight. I might hit some weather, but I feel like we normally land the plane.
— Dave Chappelle – 6.30.2017 (The Breakfast Club)

It’s not necessarily you feel like you have something to prove, I’m sure you guys feel the same way, it’s like quality control. You want to make sure whatever you offer, you put your best foot forward. It doesn’t mean you don’t want to prove anything, it just means you respect the people that respect you and you wanna reciprocate their respect with a good product.
— Dave Chappelle – 6.30.2017 (The Breakfast Club)

Passing the buck is how you get passed over.
Blind Items.” Daytime Divas

We don’t have to [reinvent the wheel] for people have already done this work, all we have to do is build upon the work.
“Episode 3: Maxine Waters.” Never Before with Janet Mock

And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party…. And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.
“Intro.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me – Location 12 (Originated by Audre Lorde)

The truth is a whip when wielded by a malicious mouth, lashing you into obedience and confinement, a stinging reminder that despite your best efforts, you are still captive to others.

“Intro.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me – Location 37

Forced disclosure always shook me, leaving me in a frightening space where my body served as proof of my realness. The need to prove myself valid was never-ending in its plea to affirm, connect, deny, and erase. I aspired daily to be like Toni Morrison’s Sula, a woman who shuns the demands placed on her by her watchful community, a woman who lacks ego, a woman OK in her otherness. She feels no pressure to verify herself. Her only aim is to be consistent, not with the world or those around her, but with herself.

“Intro.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me – Location 83 to 97

There are only so many vigils, so many murals, so many pleas for justice before we must succumb to the fact that our culture is intent on us not existing.

“Intro.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me – Location 111

So do you love God or are you in love with God?
— “A Prayer for Mad Sweeney.” American Gods

I don’t need to understand every last thing about you. We could be together for as long as you have lived thus far, and I still wouldn’t know everything. All I need to understand is my place in your life and in return let you understand your place in mine.
Amari Sali

Coincidence changes your day and fate changes your life.
Pretend We’re Kissing

I do not pray to ask God for things. I pray to thank God for bringing me where I am. To this time, to this place, where I finally know what I must do in this life.
— “Murder of Gods.” American Gods

Many people in general, not just celebrities, write about their own lives to find purpose for pain. […] Writing this book has […] allowed me to see people who have hurt me as just that. People. The hurt is no longer part of the equation. People. Just like me. I’m a person who has been hurt, but I’m also a person who has hurt.
— “Next.” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 234)

My body is not a character description.
— “Will I Still Be Beautiful When I’m Not Fat.” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 226) | Noted to be said by Amber Riley

I prayed that whatever my life was supposed to be, whatever my path was, I would finally be on it. I was only twenty-four years old, but I was tired of fear. I was tired of running away from something I could see into something I couldn’t.
— “Another Psychic Told Me so.” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 190)

[…] my least favorite game ever: the “Is This a Date?” game! Fun for no one! Here’s how it goes. Flirty dude will text me some flirty/ friendly shit a few times, and then say, “We should link up.” Now the word link is some tricky Clinton administration number-one shit. It’s language that makes it hard to tell what’s actually happening. You can link up with your mom to celebrate her birthday but you can also link up with the dweeb you cheat off of in science class to let him cop a feel under the bleachers. What exactly does link up even mean? Nobody knows! And you can’t know until after the linkup!
— “Is This a Date?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 170)

Dating seems to conclude with something being wrong with me. I’m not sure the mental gymnastics are worth it. […] In fact, I’m not done with dating just because I’m tired of it. It’s not even really my decision to stop. I’m being forced into retirement.
— “Is This a Date?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 166-167)

You keep your horrible boyfriend around because you feel like shit, and he’s the only one around who agrees with you. He validates the part of you that thinks you deserve bad things instead of good things. When you start believing that you deserve good things, you’ll dump him because he won’t fit anymore. But for now, he treats you like shit because that’s what you want.
— “Is This a Date?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 166)

I’m comfortable talking about pain. I’m comfortable taking about self-love. But the concept of romantic love feels weird and kind of foreign in my brain.
— “Is This a Date?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 158)

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Collected Quotes For The Month: May 2017

Collected Quotes For The Month: May 2017

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No version of myself is permanent but, sometimes, the bad parts are trying to fool me into thinking they are permanent.
Jenny Slate

[When asked if she thinks she doesn’t give people enough credit] I think when I first meet people I give them all the credit and then I slowly take it away.
Jenny Slate

Sometimes there isn’t a penny worth the bullshit.
— Marsha Ambrosius (Breakfast Club Interview – Posted 5/4/2017)

Never get on the bad side of small minded people who have a little authority.

I was always raised with the concept of not being a dilettante. […] When you took something up […], you didn’t dabble in it. […] If you wanted to do it, you were going to practice, and you were going to be disciplined and learn how to do it properly.
Elisabeth Moss

For me, if I can find [what] the music for the character is, I know who she is. Because for me, who a person is, is very difficult to put into words. What I love about music is you can express something without using words and it can capture an intangible quality that I couldn’t describe to somebody. You know?
Elisabeth Moss

Love isn’t real. It was never anything more than lust with a good marketing campaign.
— “Faithful.” The Handmaid’s Tale

Every love story is a tragedy if you wait long enough.
—”Faithful.” The Handmaid’s Tale

It’s a thin line between petty and pathetic.
Remy Ma (Cited on Breakfast Club – Rumor Report)

We expect leaders to take us where we want to go. The problem, it seems to me, begins when they don’t. When things do not improve and yet these leaders keep expecting us to get on their bus. I think this is when leaders become something else. […] Politicians.
— “Polyphony.” Sense8

I only repeat myself in the vague hope that one day, somebody will actually hear me.
This Beautiful Fantastic

Homes are architectural forms of memory.
— “Polyphony.” Sense8

“Hope is undiscovered disappointment.”
— “Fear Never Fixed Anything” Sense8

Your life is either defined by the system or by the way you defy the system.
— “Fear Never Fixed Anything” Sense8

I’m slowly dying of survival.
—”Isolated Above, Connected Below” Sense8

I never understood the word “Presence” until we were together.
— “If All The World’s A Stage, Identity Is Nothing But A Costume.” Sense8

Social media is not reality, it’s your portfolio of your best moments.
Lindsay Stirling

If you can’t look out for yourself, how the hell you going to look out for me?
— “The Secret of Spoons” American Gods

I’m not stuck in the past. I just hate the present.
— “Kimmy Gets Divorced?!” Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt

Therapist never really tell you what you should do. They ask you what you think you should do. If they know the correct answer, they hold it close to their vests as if they were in a poker match in a way that lets you know, ‘I’m here to listen, but you will be fucking up your life on your own, kiddo.'”
— “Twelve Sixty-six.” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 136)

“Damn shame I tell you, being a black woman. ‘Be strong,’ they say. Support your man, raise your man, think like a man. Well damn, I gotta do all that? Who’s out here working for me, carrying my burden, building me up when I get down? Nobody. Black women out here trying to save everybody and what do we get? Swagger jacked by white girls wearing cornrows and bamboo earrings. Ain’t that a bitch? But we still try. Try to help all y’all. Even when we get nothing. Is that admirable or ridiculous? I don’t know.”

— “Tick Tock.” Scandal

Mr. Big Strong Black Man. God forbid you let a sista like me help you out. Naw, you don’t want that. Don’t let me put you on my back when you fall. Wipe the crust out of your eyes. Put a pep back in your step. Because when we do, you resent us for making you better, smarter, stronger. Then drop us so you can be with someone basic, someone without all that baggage you left us with.

— “Tick Tock.” Scandal

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Collected Quotes for the Month: April 2017

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Dream big, they say. Shoot for the stars. Then they lock us away for 12 years and tell us where to sit, when to pee, and what to think. […] Then we turn 18 and even though we’ve never had an original thought, we have to make the most important decision of our lives. […] And if you don’t have the money and don’t really have the grades, a lot of the decision gets made for you.
– “Tape 4, Side B” Thirteen Reasons Why

My body is like a phone in a silicon case. No matter what I do, I cannot smash.
“Age Ain’t Nothing But a Number” Chewing Gum: Season 2

[…] abortion is the last line of defense against shitty people in the species.
Louis C.K. – 2017

I like imagining better than remembering.
“Your Will Shall Decide Your Destiny.” Anne

“Most leaps of faith are often preceded by a shove.”
I’m Dying Up Here

“[…] when you see what I can do without any help from you, you’re gonna mourn the pride you could have felt in me when all you had was pity.”
— “Point of No Return” – Greenleaf

[…] Teenagers fall in and out of love everyday. I need to know that when the initial flush is over, and it will always be over, I need to know that I am not standing alone.
In The Morning

We announce who we are in who we choose.
In The Morning

I’m always someone’s experience or adventure. Then, eventually, they settle down with someone they can either predict or control.
In The Morning

Don’t deny the world the truth about yourself just because it’s good.
— “Chapter IX.” Dear White People

[…] public victims don’t have time to grieve because their trauma is immediately politicized, especially with social media and the 24-hour news cycle. It’s a lot.
— “Chapter VI.” Dear White People

The sparkle depends on the flaws of the diamond.
— “Born To Trouble.” Greenleaf

Trevor Noah’s Born a Crime: Stories From a South African Childhood

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Collected Quotes of The Month: March 2017

Sorry about most of the quotes coming from Instagram. Next month I plan to have them all be text only.

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Remember that everyone’s individual experience is going to be different. From the day we are born we are building or reality, like a house. Some of our houses will be further along than others and some houses will based onthe materials we used to build it. When someone with a new idea comes along and asks you to take clicks away from the foundation of your house, you’re going to be hesitant because those are some of your first bricks. Those are the ideas that your parents, your friends and family have taught you. The older you get, the more unwilling you’ll be to make a major change to your house. That’s ok but you’re not just a house. You’re a house in a neighborhood, in a city, in a country, in the world. Before you clap back at someone who has a different opinion than you, remember you can’t just walk into their house and start renovations. That’s not your crib. Try and understand their experiences,  and work on renovations together.
There’s No Merit Badge For Allies” – Mic

Why not focus on the possibilities in your life instead of the limitations?
— “Crashing.” The Arrangement

Your first, last, and best love will always be self-love.
— “Mary J. Blige – 3.31.2017” The Breakfast Club

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Collected Quotes: February 2017

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It’s easy to recognize your truth in retrospect. What’s hard is being true in the moment.

—           Imperial Dreams

An old lifer once told you, ‘All men suffer loss.’ But you know now that not all losses are the same. Only the ones that stop you from ever fighting again make you a loser. Make you go back to what’s easy. What you know. […] All the other losses just serve to strengthen you. Prepare you for what’s ahead.

—           Imperial Dreams

[…] a lot of Christians do, but not all of them, they go to this holy word, this bible, and they try to find this scripture and bend it around what they want it to bend around. Rather than leave it in its proper context.
— Madea On The Run – The Play

Remember: You can handle anything in the moment. It’s our fear of what might happen that undoes us.
— “Dream A Little Dream.” The Fosters

#thefosters #freeform #tvquotes #milestones #CruelAndUnusual #quote

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‘I’m sorry’ doesn’t fix anything. It just starts the conversation.
— “Hook.” MacGyver

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"I want them to remember looking up at me not down."
- This is Us: Season 1/ Episode 16 "Memphis"

We are a constellation of experiences, expressions, and identities. Ours is a mesmerizing constellation, so vast it can’t be contained, so plentiful it can’t be denied, so brilliant, it shines through the dark.

The Trans List


I always refer to myself as ‘Yo soy un milagro,’ which means that I am a miracle. There was a reason why I didn’t get killed when I was on the streets. There was a reason why when I overdosed in an alley, the paramedics came and got me. There was a reason why I didn’t get killed when I was in prison. I’m supposed to be here doing what I’m supposed to be doing.

The Trans List

I know it just seems very… shallow in a sense, but I think for trans people, our outer selves are very important to us. They’re very important to the way we present to the world because it’s the way the world comes back to us.

The Trans List

People dressed me up to be somethin’ else. I was socialized to be somethin’ else and now I have to, you know, deconstruct all of that to get to where I was supposed to be. Because if you left it up to me I would have been like this since I was four. When I said I was a girl.


I ask myself […] when […] I go out to the club sometime and I’m […] doin’ a molly or I’m smokin’ a blunt or I’m having a cocktail, […] what’s making me do this? Am I enjoying it? Am I doing it ‘cause I want to? Or, am I doing it ‘cause it’s an escape and it’s comfort, it’s normal for me.


I spent so much on life just living but I don’t know how much quality of living I’ve actually put towards […] bettering myself.


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