In this post you’ll find some of the best quotes of 2017 which perhaps deserve a second look as we begin 2018. 

Page 1: Love (of Self & Others), Relationship, The Single Life and Friendship Quotes

Page 2: Job, Money, Career and Social Mobility Quotes

Page 3: Things to Remember in Life

Page 4: Quotes Dealing with Mental Health, Pain and About Figuring Out How To Move On

Page 5: A Time To Reflect

Love (of Self & Others), Relationship, The Single Life and Friendship Quotes

Featuring quotes which hopefully help you understand the relationships you are in with yourself or others a bit better. If not prepare for the ones which may come in 2018. Though some are just about dating being hard.

The best apology is changed behavior.
— The Breakfast Club (12/14/2017)

“People can’t see your potential, just your patterns.”
We’re Not Friends, Just Peers (And Other Lessons From 2017 That Changed My Life)

You know, God is a trickster. In life, God doesn’t give you the people you want. Instead he gives you the people you need.
— “#DaJumpoff (DOCTRINE)” She’s Gotta Have It

The most important thing in life is to have good friends. Not lots of friends.
The Killing of a Sacred Deer


[Talking about Golden Girls and Betty White’s character asking Bea Arthur’s what she wants in her next husband] ‘I want someone to grow old with’ and I thought, ‘Of course’ and she said ‘Because Stan never wanted to grow old with me.’ And for some reason, it struck me much later that is what most people don’t want. They want the young, they want the cute, and as soon as you stay that way with your body, your sensibility, it’s all great. And then when you get older, you change. You change physically, you change emotionally, and a lot of people aren’t in it for the long haul. They’re not in it for the changes. They’re not in it for the health scares or, I don’t know, death. They’re not in it for that. And I literally want someone to grow old with, I do. I understand what all those elements are. I saw it with my mom and dad when she had to sit next to his deathbed. That’s marriage. That’s love. That’s commitment.
— Viola Davis – Black Love (Part 4)

There are four Ls that I think are important. Obviously, love [but also] you have to like each other. Like is so undervalued. […] Laughter: You have to laugh at the same things man, that’s such an important thing to share between two people. And the last thing, not that it’s last on the list, but lust. You have to be attracted to each other – the lust has to be there. Because, otherwise, you’re just roommates. You’re just friends.
—          Black Love: Part 4

Don’t get advice from people who don’t love the way you love. Who don’t view things the way you view things. A lot of the time, people give advice based on their own insecurities and so what they’re saying will never benefit you.
—          Erica Campbell: Black Love – Part 4

First of all, all love is, is work. It’s not easy. That other stuff, that’s lust. That’s like. Love is work, compromise, sacrifice, and a whole bunch of laughter in between. That’s all love is. The other things: Passion, Lust, all that, […] that’s the other side of it. That’s just something that’s primal. Love, you cannot just love somebody. You have to learn to love somebody because, until you’re tested, you don’t know what your real capacity for actual love is.

Neil Brown Jr. – Black Love (Part 3: Falling Down)


Just as quickly as someone enters, they can leave. People make mistakes. They disappoint. And you’re left with yourself. Being alone is unbearable when you’ve enjoyed a reprieve with togetherness. I believed in the power of companionship. What I did not know then was that no one can heal you. You must learn to be your own company, your own cure. You cannot retreat into someone else for fulfillment.
— “Part 1/ Chapter 6.″ Surpassing Certainty

I wished I could reach for next-level spiritual goals, like being ‘able to be alone, to find it nourishing—not just a waiting.
— “Part 1/ Chapter 6.″ Surpassing Certainty

[…] if somebody has not made space for themselves yet, they can’t really make space for anybody else.
— “Robert Downey Jr.” Off Camera with Sam Jones

I knew that love was more than a statement. It was an action that required accountability.
— “Part One/ Chapter 4.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me

Does it make you weak if you give up on a marriage or is it weak to stay in one that you’re not happy in?
— The Carmichael Show: Season 3/ Episode 9 “Evelyn and Vernon” 


People say they love you, but what they mean is, they love how loving you makes them feel about themselves. Or they love what they can take from you.
To The Bone

[…] my least favorite game ever: the “Is This a Date?” game! Fun for no one! Here’s how it goes. Flirty dude will text me some flirty/ friendly shit a few times, and then say, “We should link up.” Now the word link is some tricky Clinton administration number-one shit. It’s language that makes it hard to tell what’s actually happening. You can link up with your mom to celebrate her birthday but you can also link up with the dweeb you cheat off of in science class to let him cop a feel under the bleachers. What exactly does link up even mean? Nobody knows! And you can’t know until after the linkup!
— “Is This a Date?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 170)

Dating seems to conclude with something being wrong with me. I’m not sure the mental gymnastics are worth it. […] In fact, I’m not done with dating just because I’m tired of it. It’s not even really my decision to stop. I’m being forced into retirement.
— “Is This a Date?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 166-167)

You keep your horrible boyfriend around because you feel like shit, and he’s the only one around who agrees with you. He validates the part of you that thinks you deserve bad things instead of good things. When you start believing that you deserve good things, you’ll dump him because he won’t fit anymore. But for now, he treats you like shit because that’s what you want.
— “Is This a Date?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 166)

Love isn’t real. It was never anything more than lust with a good marketing campaign.
— “Faithful.” The Handmaid’s Tale

Every love story is a tragedy if you wait long enough.
—”Faithful.” The Handmaid’s Tale

If you can’t look out for yourself, how the hell you going to look out for me?
— “The Secret of Spoons” American Gods

“The worse thing you can do is get married and not be who you are.”
Tyrese – The Breakfast Club (4/10/2017)

We can go slow. I just want to go somewhere.
— “Chapter I.” Dear White People

We announce who we are in who we choose.
In The Morning


[…] Teenagers fall in and out of love everyday. I need to know that when the initial flush is over, and it will always be over, I need to know that I am not standing alone.
In The Morning


Your first, last, and best love will always be self-love.
— “Mary J. Blige – 3.31.2017” The Breakfast Club

Becoming connected to your sexuality and your body sexually is a huge part of becoming yourself, and understanding and loving your body, it changes everything.
The Trans List


[…] Marriage, otherwise known as adjusting expectations for adults.
One Night


[…] he left spaces for me when he talked. If I saw him again, I decided I might put words in those spaces.
— “Chapter 4: Wavy.” All The Ugly And Wonderful Things: A Novel – Page 26

You can never lose me […]. I mean, you can avoid me, you can hate me–[but] you can’t lose me.
— “Knight of Crowns.” The Magicians

[He] is a Balcony Person. […] someone who sits in the theater of your life, adoring you, cheering you on. [..] some people never had it growing up, so they have this insatiable need to fill their balcony as grown-ups.
— “Teacher’s Pet.” Bull

It’s not that I fear being lonely, what I fear is a life without stimulation. I want someone to tickle my mind, challenge my thoughts and ways of thinking. I want something to tickle my presence with their silliness, they way of seeing the world and the best way they found to transverse it. Hell, I want someone to tickle my body with their fingertips, their whole hand, mouth, and being. Ain’t no fear in me about being lonely, I love myself enough to be good company, but ain’t nothing like someone recognizing you, seeing you, and willing to share their person with you willingly. Especially not to share their lonely, to simply pass the time, but to share their discoveries and allow open borders between you and their world.
Amari Sali

Don’t make me feel bad for liking something just because you can’t afford it.
Between Us

It’s troublesome if you approach me purely out of curiousity.
— “Takahashi Tetsuo Wants an Interview.” Demi-chan wa Kataritai (Interviews with Monster Girls)

Being chosen is the greatest gift you can give to another human being.
Chapter 8: Robert — Location 1636-1637
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

You’re having sex with a woman in her mind before you’re having sex with her in her vagina.
Chapter 9: The Mulberry Tree — Location 1853-1854|
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

[…] foreplay begins during the day. It doesn’t begin in the bedroom.
Chapter 9: The Mulberry Tree — Location 1854-1855
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He’s attracted to independent women. “He’s like an exotic bird collector,” she said. “He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage.”
Chapter 18: My Mother’s Life — Location 3626-3629
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

Love is a creative act. When you love someone you create a new world for them. My mother did that for me, and with the progress I made and the things I learned, I came back and created a new world and a new understanding for her.
Chapter 18: My Mother’s Life — Location 3782
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

Growing up in a home of abuse, you struggle with the notion that you can love a person you hate, or hate a person you love. It’s a strange feeling. You want to live in a world where someone is good or bad, where you either hate them or love them, but that’s not how people are.
Chapter 18: My Mother’s Life — Location 3847
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

“[…] make sure your woman is the woman in your life. Don’t be one of these men who makes his wife compete with his mother. A man with a wife cannot be beholden to his mother.”
“Chapter 9: The Mulberry Tree” Location 1844-1846
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

You look at me. You acknowledge me. Show me that I exist to you, because the way you treat me is the way you will treat your woman. Women like to be noticed. Come and acknowledge me and let me know that you see me. Don’t just see me when you need something.
“Chapter 9: The Mulberry Tree” Location 1847-1849
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

People say all the time that they’d do anything for the people they love. But would you really? Would you do anything? Would you give everything? I don’t know that a child knows that kind of selfless love. A mother, yes. A mother will clutch her children and jump from a moving car to keep them from harm. She will do it without thinking. But I don’t think the child knows how to do that, not instinctively. It’s something the child has to learn.
Chapter 18: My Mother’s Life” Location 4086
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood

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