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Quotes Dealing with Mental Health, Pain and About Figuring Out How To Move On
From affirmations, things to remember when trying to make it through this new year, or things you may not wanna hear but will help you move forward, that’s what these quotes are about.
You have a right to your thoughts. Have them all, feel them all, so you can get up and keep going.
— The Mother of Black Hollywood – Page 46
15 hugs a day keep the psychiatrist away.
— Tiffany Haddish on The Breakfast Club (12/11/2017)
‘I’m sorry’ doesn’t fix anything. It just starts the conversation.
— “Hook.” MacGyver
Money is not life’s report card.
— Lady Bird
[…] Knowing better doesn’t always result in doing better.
—”Will I Still Be Beautiful When I’m Not Fat?” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 217)
Knowing yourself is the first step toward loving yourself. Embracing the flawed parts of who you are can only make you stronger. I know it sounds New Age-y and cliched, but honestly, all I want is to be a better person. And I can only achieve that by realizing where I am now.
— “So Much I Wanna Tell You” Page 77
[I need to] Stop seeing everyone’s success as my failures.
— “#DaJumpoff (DOCTRINE)” She’s Gotta Have It
We didn’t lose. We just haven’t won yet.
— Mary – Alias Grace: Season 1/ Episode 2 “Part 2”
Instead of mourning for the past, it’s better to create. Create the things that only you can create.
— “We cannot decide where we go but you can.” Re:Creators
[…] having a thought isn’t the same as doing it. If we were all on trial for our thoughts, we would all be hanged.
— Alias Grace: Season 1/ Episode 5
If people wish to believe a thing, if they long for it and depend on it to be true, is it cheating to help them to their own belief? Or is it not rather a charity, a human kindness?
— Alias Grace: Season 1/ Episode 4 “Part 4”
I’ve learned that if I’m passionate about something, it’s probably the right thing to care about.
— Life Is Strange (Before The Storm): Episode 2 “Brave New World”
Are you angry all the time because you like the way it feels or is it merely a desperate defense against experiencing true intimacy with others?
— Life Is Strange (Before The Storm): Episode 2 “Brave New World”
[…] guilt comes to you not from the things you have done, but from the things others have done to you.
— Alias Grace: Season 1/ Episode 6
Show up for your life!
— Billy Porter (The Breakfast Club 10/9/2017)
It’s okay to not be okay.
— Life Is Strange (Before The Storm): Episode 2 “Brave New World”
I never realized that what I needed was a means to express myself. Hearing myself enabled me to heal myself. For so much of my life, I believed that my silence would protect me, that by keeping my circle small, by holding my truth close, by being cautious of others, I would be able to remain safe. But all it did was isolate me and leave me with delusions. I imagined that the people who cared about me would no longer love me if I spoke my truth. But I had to be open and honest with myself, and that began with telling myself the truth.
— “Part 2/ Chapter 14.” Surpassing Certainty
This slight shift from ‘I do not have time’ to ‘I can make time for myself’ was the first stage to building a space for writing in my life.
— “Part 2/ Chapter 14.” Surpassing Certainty
Bad memories haunt you until you dig up the roots.
— Chapter 31 – Page 177 [A Pain Less Ordinary]
I can always bring my past with me but I can never go back. You gotta leave yourself behind.
— Gaga: Five Foot Two
Everything gets worse if you don’t deal with it.
— Chapter 5 – Page 15 [A Pain Less Ordinary]
Forgiveness is a conversation, not a decision.
— “This morning’s therapy session was about Forgiveness” [So Let’s Talk About]
Sometimes saying goodbye means you’re making room for something better.
— Insecure: Season 2/ Episode 6 “Hella Blows”
Feeling like you are the subject and not the object is such a crazy shift in autonomy.
— Kathryn Hahn – THR Full Comedy Actress Roundtable
Hopefully, the goal in being yourself is that it puts you on the right path.
— Sam Jones (The Off Camera Show)
Lives are saved by tough drill instructors and in the absence of one, you have to be your own.
— “Robert Downey Jr.” Off Camera with Sam Jones
[…] I’m trying to be somebody else now and it’s hard. I had a lot of years practicing being me.
— Queen Sugar: Season 2/ Episode 5 “Caroling Dusk”
Fear is a rite of passage for us […]. Question is, how do you use it to make yourself smarter and better.
— Queen Sugar: Season 2/ Episode 5 “Caroling Dusk”
Stop waiting for life to be easy. Stop hoping for somebody to save you. You don’t need another person lying to you. Things don’t all add up. But you are resilient. Face some hard facts and you could have an incredible life.
— To The Bone
When you are confident and feel good about what you do, there’s no need to make other people feel small.
— Sterling K. Brown (THR Drama Actor Roundtable – 2017)
There is so much time wasted in being quiet. It’s detrimental, it is dangerous, it is dangerous to lie and it is dangerous to be silent.
— “Episode 7: Gabourey Sidibe.” Never Before with Janet Mock
[…] you can’t escape your truth. It follows you. No matter how far you travel, how good you feel with it at a distance, it lingers and sticks to you.
— “Part One/ Chapter 3.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me
[…] repeat after me: “That was then, this is now. That was there, this is here. That was yesterday, this is today.
— Claws: Season 1/ Episode 2 “Funerary”
You’re still in yesterday. […] You haven’t reset.
— Claws: Season 1/ Episode 2 “Funerary”
There is power in sharing hurt and there is power in sharing humanity.
— “Episode 7: Gabourey Sidibe.” Never Before with Janet Mock
Bravery and courage isn’t always standing up for yourself, it’s just not backing down and facing fear.
— Sophie Turner
Bad things are going to happen. That’s not negotiable. What is, is how you deal with it.
— To The Bone
This idea you have that there’s a way to be safe, it’s childish and cowardly. It stops you from experiencing anything, including anything good.
— To The Bone
One’s happiness is one’s own to define and decide.Looking down on someone’s decision or making it for them is nothing but heavy-handed.
— “Chtholly.” SukaSuka
Remaining silent when one must speak is the slow death of freedom.
— “What Do I Care For Morning.” Queen Sugar
And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party…. And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.
| — | “Intro.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me – Location 12 (Originated by Audre Lorde) |
The truth is a whip when wielded by a malicious mouth, lashing you into obedience and confinement, a stinging reminder that despite your best efforts, you are still captive to others.
| — | “Intro.” Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me – Location 37 |
Many people in general, not just celebrities, write about their own lives to find purpose for pain. […] Writing this book has […] allowed me to see people who have hurt me as just that. People. The hurt is no longer part of the equation. People. Just like me. I’m a person who has been hurt, but I’m also a person who has hurt.
— “Next.” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 234)
My body is not a character description.
— “Will I Still Be Beautiful When I’m Not Fat.” This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 226) | Noted to be said by Amber Riley
“For years, I got mine by remaining silent and blending in. Now I’ve finally reached a place where silence is no longer an option for me. My survival depends on my ability to speak truth to power, not just for myself, but for us. I’m committed to getting ours. It requires me to relay how I struggled with living, dreaming, loving, fucking, being seen, and simply being in my body, in this world. This is a universal experience.”
— Intro (Location 123) – “Surpassing Certainty: What My Twenties Taught Me” by Janet Mock
I wanted to say no. No made the most sense. But writing this book had reminded me that my life has been filled with nos from other people. The only time something got interesting in my life was when someone said yes.
— “Next.”This Is Just My Face, Try Not To Stare (Page 236)
No version of myself is permanent but, sometimes, the bad parts are trying to fool me into thinking they are permanent.
— Jenny Slate
Social media is not reality, it’s your portfolio of your best moments.
— Lindsay Stirling
I don’t have to get it 100% in order to support you 100%.
— “Gender.” The Carmichael Show
Rage and pain are two sides of the same coin
— “Light The Wick” Gotham
Why not focus on the possibilities in your life instead of the limitations?
— “Crashing.” The Arrangement
Remember: You can handle anything in the moment. It’s our fear of what might happen that undoes us.
— “Dream A Little Dream.” The Fosters
I always refer to myself as ‘Yo soy un milagro,’ which means that I am a miracle. There was a reason why I didn’t get killed when I was on the streets. There was a reason why when I overdosed in an alley, the paramedics came and got me. There was a reason why I didn’t get killed when I was in prison. I’m supposed to be here doing what I’m supposed to be doing.
– The Trans List
I ask myself […] when […] I go out to the club sometime and I’m […] doin’ a molly or I’m smokin’ a blunt or I’m having a cocktail, […] what’s making me do this? Am I enjoying it? Am I doing it ‘cause I want to? Or, am I doing it ‘cause it’s an escape and it’s comfort, it’s normal for me.
– Kiki
I spent so much on life just living but I don’t know how much quality of living I’ve actually put towards […] bettering myself.
– Kiki
All you can do is apologize from the bottom of your heart for the things you did, for the things you didn’t do, for what you knew how to do and what you did not know how to do, apologize for them and mean it.
— Madea On The Run – The Play
Let me tell you something: Never judge a book by the cover. Sometime you got to go up in there and write what you want on the pages.
— Madea On The Run – The Play
Belief is half of all healing.
— A Monster Calls
That’s the difference between us and them. They have a modicum of talent, they shout it from the rooftops. Us? We have talent, we get told to shut up. ‘Don’t show off. Don’t be such a clever bastard.’ You’re special […]. Don’t ever, ever pretend that you’re not.
— iBoy
You’re thinking about it wrong. Cool under pressure is not a talent. It’s a skill, and you need to practice.
— “Knight of Crowns.” The Magicians
I like to explore things. I don’t expect to enjoy them, but I am curious what is working for other people.
— “What Kind of Animal Would Do This” Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee
“Learn from your past and be better because of your past.”
Chapter 5: The Second Girl — Location 1007-1007
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood
“[…] remember the thing that caused the trauma, but I don’t hold on to the trauma. I never let the memory of something painful prevent me from trying something new. If you think too much about the ass-kicking your mom gave you, or the ass-kicking that life gave you, you’ll stop pushing the boundaries and breaking the rules. It’s better to take it, spend some time crying, then wake up the next day and move on. You’ll have a few bruises and they’ll remind you of what happened and that’s okay. But after a while the bruises fade, and they fade for a reason—because now it’s time to get up to some shit again.”
Chapter 6: Loopholes — Location 1388-1392
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood
I don’t regret anything I’ve ever done in life, any choice that I’ve made. But I’m consumed with regret for the things I didn’t do, the choices I didn’t make, the things I didn’t say. We spend so much time being afraid of failure, afraid of rejection. But regret is the thing we should fear most. Failure is an answer. Rejection is an answer. Regret is an eternal question you will never have the answer to.
Chapter 11: Outsider — Location 2021-2024
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood
My cry was not a cry of sadness. It was not catharsis. It wasn’t me feeling sorry for myself. It was an expression of raw pain that came from an inability of my body to express that pain in any other way, shape, or form.
Chapter 18: My Mother’s Life — Location 3996
— Born a Crime – Stories from a South African Childhood
Someone took me, someone stole me, and the worst part is, I’m still here!
— “Mistress – New – Mistress.” Emerald City
I’m sorry that I’m not a person anymore. I’m a problem.
— To The Bone
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