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Over the month of September 2020, we collected quotes from various movies, interviews, shows, and more, check them out.
Small Doses with Amanda Seales
Communication without accusation.
— Side Effects of Working With Your Friends (Featuring King Bach)
Properly label what’s happening here. […] I think we, as people, get pushed into a introvert scenario because people are not being kind to us, because people are letting us down and so we become isolated and then we consider ourselves introverts. No, you’re just spurned. You’re burned and you’re scorned and now you’re not even operating how you naturally operate.
— Side Effects of Being an Extrovert
Not every time that morals and principles are different are they wrong. Not every time that ways of behaving are different are they wrong. Sometimes it’s just a different method.
— Side Effects of Being an Extrovert
Self-confident is somebody who, when met with a challenge, dare, or interest, can rise to that occasion, and is willing to do so in a fashion that can seem like it is outwardly showy but at the end of the day, it is just being done in front of people.
— Side Effects of Being an Extrovert
Optimism is in hoping things will go well, but if you don’t have a real reason to root that in happening, that’s not an optimist. That’s a delusional person.
— Side Effects of Being a Realist
Being a realist is knowing it may not look good, but it may get the shit done.
— Side Effects of Being a Realist
Being a realist doesn’t mean you lack compassion, it just means that you are aware in a very clear way.
— Side Effects of Being a Realist
Arguing is emotion-based, debate is a real conversation that looks at the facts and you have opposing sides and you can get to a bottom line.
— Side Effects of Being a Realist
You cannot have a debate with people that don’t want to look at the facts.
— Side Effects of Being a Realist
Don’t let yourself be less than a realist because other people are trying to turn you into an apologist.
— Side Effects of Being a Realist
Interviews
I like to explore things. I don’t expect to enjoy them, but I am curious what is working for other people.
— Jerry Seinfeld (Comedians In Cars Getting Coffee – John Oliver)
You maybe the first to do many things, but make sure you’re not the last.
— Kamala Harris (Sen. Kamala Harris on Reforming Police & Prosecutors | Ext. Interview | DESUS & MERO | SHOWTIME)
We always know what we want but we’re not always what we want.
— CHANTÉ MOORE sings Minnie Riperton & Talks R&B Divas, Marriage, & Wooden Eyes?
Vulnerability is the birthplace of courage.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
A lot of times, I have to literally choose, “Am I going to choose my recovery, or am I going to choose making people I don’t even know feel better?”
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
I’m going to be brave with my life and that means choosing courage over comfort and pissing some people off sometimes. But I’m just not here for your purpose; I’m here for mine.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Vulnerability is not a weakness. It’s the courage to show up and be real when you can’t control the outcome or what people think.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
[…] don’t share vulnerability with everyone. We share our stories with people who have earned the right to hear them. […] that’s a privilege to hear that.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Always examine your intention for sharing.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
My healing has to be in my sharing, not what I hear back.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
When one is sharing their vulnerability, it is towards one’s own healing and personal growth, period. So no matter what the response maybe, no matter how people react, at the end of the day, […] the fact you took that step is the win and that’s the thing to hold onto.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Jada Pinkett-Smith
Never tie your growth or your win to an outcome you can’t control.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
The difference between shame and guilt is the difference between, “I am bad” and “I did something bad.” […] the difference is huge because shame is positively correlated with violence, addiction, aggression, eating disorders, suicide, bullying – I mean, across the board. In my field, we call it the master emotion. [Guilt is] not correlated with those outcomes. Guilt seems to be a protective factor against those outcomes, meaning if I am able to separate myself from a behavior and say — “I’m not stupid, but not studying last night was stupid.”
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
[…] when we’re in pain, it [shame] is a very lethal weapon for discharging our own pain and suffering.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Shame is a tool of oppression.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
You can change a child’s behavior on a dime with shame. […] For children, shame is the threat of being unlovable.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
We’re most likely to shame our children or anyone around us that has less power than us when we are either scared or we’re in our own shame.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
I can be scary when I’m scared.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Don’t hold people responsible for information they didn’t have.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Safety [is] a prerequisite for vulnerability.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Trauma kills vulnerability. Whether that trauma is abuse or neglect or racism or poverty or homophobia, it makes vulnerability dangerous.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
[…] when we experience a setback or a failure or a heartbreak, the first casualty of that is self-trust. […] And the biggest threat to self-trust is, “Do I choose to betray myself over making someone else feel uncomfortable or disappointed?”
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Every time we choose ourselves, we have to stop and recognize it. “Like, “I chose to take care of me right now.”
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
[…] every choice that you make in taking care of yourself slowly builds that internal self-trust.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Jada Pinkett-Smith
If you can’t receive help with an open heart, you’re never really giving it with an open heart.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
I absolutely attach value to being the helper. I absolutely think there’s more value in being the helper than being the helped. There used to be, like, if I’m not helping, what value do I add?
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown (Quoting Dr. Carl Jung)
Don’t see it as selfishness, see it as making yourself whole.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
There is no midlife crisis. It’s a midlife unraveling that is real, and it’s the universe grabbing us by the shoulders at midlife and saying, “Wake up. The gifts I have to you are not being used and not using these gifts is not benign. You will pay for it.” It’s a universal shoulder shake.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
We broke our contract with them [Millineals and Gen Z] as adults. We’re raising a bunch of kids on active shooter drills. This is the first generation of people saying, “Oh, they actually don’t know, the grown-ups don’t know what they’re doing. Like, we’re winging it.” And so they’re calling all kinds of stuff into question, and I don’t like the whole “millennials are overprotected,” because at the same time that’s happening with some mostly white and wealthy kids, there’s whole groups of millennials and Gen Zers who have been completely underserved and underprotected. I think that’s a dangerous swath. I think these are mostly just young adults saying, “We want something different and we don’t really trust you.” […] And so, I think, for millennials, they feel untethered.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Ground yourself and reality-check what you’re doing. The cure to the instagramming and the “I’m highly triggered” is, plant your feet and find some purpose. […] Let go of the notion that you’re going to press into your purpose while pleasing people. That is not going to ever happen.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Adversiry is helpful to build courage and stamina, but we don’t need trauma. Trauma doesn’t build tough people. Trauma sets people back. What we’ve got is a generation or two of kids that were raised with protection from adversity but too much trauma.
— Red Table Talk | Life Changing Lessons with Brené Brown | Brené Brown
Movies
We can’t keep ignoring the struggles of another group just because it feels that we’re not connected.
— Emma (A Long Time Coming)
“Sometimes the thought is closer to the truth, to reality, than an action. You can say anything, you can do anything, but you can’t fake a thought.”
— The Woman (Quoting Jake) – I’m Thinking of Ending Things
There’s no better disguise than fear.
— Enola (Enola Holmes)
Facts don’t distract from hope.
— Enola (Enola Holmes)
Good For You Podcast with Whitney Cummings
Because I know peace, it’s on me to keep it and to find it, and to know where I won’t find it.
— Gabourey Sidibe | Ep #46: GABOUREY SIDIBE | Good For You Podcast with Whitney Cummings
If you’re yelling at me, I don’t hear what you’re saying. I hear that I need to defend myself.
— Gabourey Sidibe | Ep #46: GABOUREY SIDIBE | Good For You Podcast with Whitney Cummings
I’ve been in love once, for real, even though I said I love you many times to many people. — Whitney Cummings – Ep #46: GABOUREY SIDIBE | Good For You Podcast with Whitney Cummings
I had always thought that I either needed to be in a relationship where I was either in lust or I was in love. I had never had both and it didn’t occur to me there could be both.
— Ginnifer Goodwin (Episode 45: Good For You Podcast with Whitney Cummings)
I don’t have time, I make time.
— Whitney Cummings (Episode 45: Good For You Podcast with Whitney Cummings)
The Boys
F*** this world for confusing nice with good.
— Stormfront
P-Valley
Every wave ain’t meant to be rode.
— Woddy
Black Love
I’m learning how to cope with someone who’s coping.
— Ariana
When God is in your marriage that a lot of things that he wants to perfect in you, it comes up. It’s kind of like the bible talks about iron sharpening iron – he’s used his things, his issues, or whatever are tailor-made for mine. So whatever he goes through or whatever he’s dealing with, it affects me and it brings up my things so that I have to deal with whatever I’m dealing with.
— Tracci
The only way that you’re going to heal is that you’re confronted and some things only will heal in a relationship because you can’t deal with these things when you’re by yourself. […] It takes someone to bring those things up in you.
— Tracci
I can say that we have peace and that’s to me, success, when you have peace in a relationship.
— Tracci
Therapy doesn’t give you the answer, it just helps you figure it out.
— Tracci
Sometimes you can have all you that you think you want, but don’t have what you need.
— Tony
I think a lot of us were so hell-bent on being the teachers, that we forget to be the students.
— Tony
There’s strength to being able to be vulnerable and people think that being vulnerable makes you weak, but you need to be strong enough to open up and be able to collapse and cry on to someone and let them help you feel better.
— Aisha
I didn’t have a fear about getting married. There are fears I have about being married.
— Jemele
I didn’t just want a partner, I wanted a soul mate. I didn’t just want a relationship, I wanted bliss and if I couldn’t have that, I refused to settle for anything else.
— Anthony
The possibility of me was better than the absolute of her.
— Joy
Good people aren’t found they flourish.
— Glenn
“It’s nice to be heard and not just observed.”
— Adam
“People can’t wait to make you someone else’s problem.”
— Adam
Raised By Wolves
You are a creator, whereas all I’ll ever be is a creation.
— Mother
“I never lost control, I just drew on a part of myself I didn’t know existed.”
— Mother
“Never hesitate to question me, […] but you have to accept the answers I give and have faith that I will always do what is best for you.”
— Father
What did the male magnet say to the female magnet? When I saw your backside, I was repelled. However, after seeing you from the front, I now find you very attractive.
— Father
Belief in the unreal can comfort the human mind, but it also weakens it.
— Mother’
We will never advance unless you resist the urge to seek solace in fantasy.
— Mother
On The Come Up
Compliments […] are part of the parental responsibilities […] took on when […] evicted from [the] womb.
— Brianna (Page 9)
[…] she didn’t say it was nothing. She said it’s nothing for me to worry about. Difference.
— Brianna (Page 19)
[…] you can only spell “brilliant” by first spelling Bri.
— Brianna (Page 40)
Lovecraft Country
I’ve done… horrible things, things I’ve tried to forget. And when I’m with you, that seems possible. It’s like… ’cause you see the good in me, I know it’s there.
— Atticus (Lovecraft Country 1.6)
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