SMILF: Season 2, Episode 4 “So Maybe I Look Feminine” – Recap, Review (with Spoilers)

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It’s Bridgette’s first weekend without Larry, and she gets an offer to hang out with Nelson – what could go wrong?


Network
Showtime
Director(s) Frankie Shaw
Writer(s) Heather V. Regnier
Air Date 2/17/2019
Introduced This Episode
Himself Kevin Bacon

A Day To Myself?: Larry, Bridgette, Rafi, Nelson

After their previous discussion, the day finally comes for Larry to spend a weekend with Rafi and Nelson. However, with Nelson being a bit curt with Larry, Bridgette gets a little worried. Not enough to make a big stink and stop the weekend visit, but she whispers a little something. You know Bridgette. She says just enough to feel like she tried but not enough for you to say she really made an effort.

But with Larry away overnight, now Bridgette decides it is time to do the things she often puts off to keep Larry entertained. Well, at least that was the plan.

How The Other Side Lives: Nelson, Bridgette, Kevin Bacon

However, while she does try to exercise, do her makeup, and more, Nelson talking to Larry in a rather dismissive way still bugs Bridgette. So, when Nelson offers a spa day, while Bridgette at first flips out, by text, to Eliza, she ends up going and has fun. Well, kind of.

Kevin Bacon in SMILF.

In the long run, we learn this is all one giant fantasy and pretty much Bridgette’s way of getting back at Nelson and women like her. This is done by them seeming out of touch, obsessed with niche lifestyle brands like Goop, and her essentially calling them mannequins based off the pictures they take. Perhaps making the only thing which isn’t a critique being Bridgette getting finger banged by Kevin Bacon. The actual Kevin Bacon.

An Idle Mind Is The Devil’s Playground: Bridgette, Larry, Rafi

But again, that’s all a fantasy. One Bridgette came up with because her mind is so caught up on what happened to Larry that she can’t really do anything else. Would it be nice to go on a spa day? Yes. How about a polo match and meet, also get finger banged by Kevin Bacon? Absolutely. However, separate anxiety is real, and so Bridgette just asks Rafi to bring back Larry. Something he does without making a big deal out of it for which Bridgette is thankful.

Highlights

Understanding The Fantasy & The Thereafter

While Tutu and Bridgette’s relationship, when she was a child, has been touched on, it is mostly in how Tutu enabled dangerous situations. What may not have been talked about are the little things. So with Nelson talking to Larry as she did, that might have triggered something in Bridgette. For that whole shut down look and lowering her voice thing, that is class Bridgette after Tutu raises her voice.

Hence the whole fantasy for only in that world would Bridgette speak up loudly for herself, without being put into a corner first. Yet, another part of the fantasy deals with what Rafi and Nelson offer compared to Bridgette. I mean, making pancakes together? It’s cute, normal, and look at how clean that kitchen is? That’s why Bridgette ends up becoming blonde, going to a polo game, and meeting a man like Kevin Bacon. She wants to fit into that ideal world where something as simple as eyeliner she has tricks to make look perfect.

A mannequin which is supposed to look like Bridgette.

But, perfect for Bridgette, normal for Bridgette, doesn’t fit in that world. Why else would she, at such a swanky event, piss in the woods? Who else but Bridgette would be fine with getting finger banged in a barn by a celebrity she just met? Never mind making it a big deal publicly like he gave her a rose?

And that might explain why she made herself puke in the end. While she pushed back against the Nelsons of the world in her fantasy, at the end of the day, she is still a minority (monetary or class wise) to them and the lifestyle they push out there. The chances of Bridgette meeting the perfect guy at some swanky event are slim. Her being able to afford to get a last minute hair appointment isn’t likely. Heck, just as a single mom, keeping Larry clean, happy, and mentally unscarred takes up a lot of her time and yet it is something she lives for. So be it her rejecting a part of herself, shame over binging food, or maybe just another unhealthy way of her dealing with things, she made herself puke.

Separation Anxiety

Another important thing to note is separation anxiety. While how your body changes, your relationships, and time management often get highlighted, separation anxiety isn’t shown as much. Now, Bridgette may not veer towards the point of believing Rafi may hurt Larry or put him a dangerous situation, but SMILF does address the change in Bridgette’s mood.

Also, like most of the episode, it counters the idea that when the baby is away, momma is free to play. Bridgette now has a huge amount of non-Larry issues to deal with and worry about, and it makes just having to worry about this kid being fed, happy, and clean seem like a blessing. Especially since, for doing so, she’ll get a smile, a hug, a kiss, and some sort of enjoyment. That is, compared to being an adult which is thankless and, at best, keeps your head above water.

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Season 1 Recap/ Review 

Season/ EpisodeSynopsisDirector, Writer, and Introduced ActorsTopics & Focused Characters
Season 2, Episode 9 “Single Mom Is Losing Faith”We’re gifted a western theme to help remix things as Bridge and Nelson reconcile, and Mr. Daddy gets his.
Director(s) Zach Strauss
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw, Zach Strauss
Air Date 3/24/2019
Introduced This Episode
Mr. Daddy Clark Gregg
  • Sloppy Seconds: Rafi, Nelson, Bridgette, Tutu, Larry
  • Mr. Daddy: Nelson, Bridgette, Larry, Rafi, Tutu, Ally, Mr. Daddy
Season 2, Episode 7 “Smile More If Lying Fails”In a pseudo-Eliza focused episode, we’re reminded how well to do her family is as Bridgette is reminded how much of an outsider she is.
Director(s) Kerry Washington
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw, Thembi L. Banks, Rochée Jeffrey
Air Date 3/10/2019
  • Left Out: Rafi, Nelson, Bridgette
  • The Outsider: Eliza, Bridgette
  • You Got A Friend In Me: Eliza, Bridgette
Season 2, Episode 8 “Sex Makes It Less Formal”On top of possibly seeing the scene which led to SMILF being cancelled, we get a few moments that might make you cry.
Director(s) Cate Shortland
Writer(s) Emily Goldwyn
Air Date 3/17/2019
Introduced This Episode
Winnie Claudia O’Doherty
Enid Melanie Griffith
  • We’re The Morons: Jackie, Tutu
  • I’m Suffocating: Winnie, Enid, Nelson
  • The Right Decision: Bridgette, Rafi
Season 2, Episode 10 “Single Mom Is Looking (For) Family”In the series finale, Tutu reveals something major as Rafi struggles with Larry’s birthday and what should have been good news.
Director(s) Cate Shortland
Writer(s) Zach Strauss, Halley Feiffer
Air Date 3/31/2019
  • We’re Fated: Bridgette, Rafi
  • Same Ol’ Mistakes: Bridgette, Rafi, Nelson
  • Milo & The Girl Left Behind: Tutu, Bridgette
Season 2, Episode 6 “Should Mothers Incur Loss Financially?”Accountability is forced upon Bridgette, Tutu, even Rafi and each take the call and pursue different decisions. Some a bit drastic.
Director(s) Cate Shortland
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw, Jessica Moore
Air Date 3/3/2019
  • Losing The House: Tutu, Jackie, Joe Jr.
  • Losing Dignity: Tutu, Jackie, Bridgette, Larry
  • Losing Nelson: Bridgette, Nelson, Rafi
Season 2, Episode 5 “Single Mom In Love Forever”The days before and day of Larry’s birth are relived – as well as the reason Colleen goes by Tutu and the beginning of the end for Rafi and Bridgette.
Director(s) Cate Shortland
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw
Air Date 2/24/2019
Introduced This Episode
Fiona Ally Sheedy
  • 2014: Rafi, Bridgette, Tutu, Eliza
  • A Classy Mom: Bridgette, Rafi, Tutu
  • The Healing Process Begins: Tutu, Bridgette, Rafi, Fiona
Season 2, Episode 4 “So Maybe I Look Feminine”It’s Bridgette’s first weekend without Larry, and she gets an offer to hang out with Nelson – what could go wrong?
Director(s) Frankie Shaw
Writer(s) Heather V. Regnier
Air Date 2/17/2019
Introduced This Episode
Himself Kevin Bacon
  • A Day To Myself?: Larry, Bridgette, Rafi, Nelson
  • How The Other Side Lives: Nelson, Bridgette, Kevin Bacon
  • An Idle Mind Is The Devil’s Playground: Bridgette, Larry, Rafi
Season 2, Episode 3 “Surrogate Mothers Inspire Loving Families”Non-white women who live in Boston, two who work for Ally specifically, and one of the two’s sisters are the focus of Smilf’s latest episode.
Director(s) Frankie Shaw
Writer(s) Emily Goldwyn, Jess Lamour
Air Date 2/10/19
Introduced This Episode
Elsie Numa Perrier
Mindy Nhadya Salomon
Ida Sisa Grey
Chloe Mia Kaplan
  • You Know I Am Your Mother: Ally, Ida, Chloe
  • A Birthday Gift For Us Both: Ally, Mindy
  • At Beck and Call: Ally, Mindy, Elsie
Season 2, Episode 2 “Sorry Mary, I’m Losing Faith”It’s one baby step forward, and two hops back as Bridgette continues to try to get her life together.
Director(s) Frankie Shaw
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw, Rachel Leavitt
Air Date 1/27/2019
Introduced This Episode
Joe Junior Lucien Spelman
Jackie Sherie Rene Scott
Hank Dan Aid
  • Mourning Together: Tutu, Jackie, Joe Junior
  • Derailment: Hank, Bridgette, Ally
  • Something Has To Give: Rafi, Bridgette

Season 1/ Episode 1 “A Box of Dunkies and Two Squirts of Maple Syrup”

Smilf, similar to Shameless, seems like the type of show which will gain a loyal fan base, but not the mainstream attention it may come to deserve.

Creator: Frankie Shaw

Season 1/ Episode 2 “1,800 Filet-O-Fishes & One Small Diet Coke”

Bridgette continues to reveal herself as someone who not only gets underestimated but probably underestimates herself.

Director(s) Leslye Headland
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw & Emily Goldwyn
Characters Introduced
Ryan Joseph Winford Warren
Eliza Raven Goodwin
Casey Austin Abrams
  • Larry is Sick!: Rafi, Nelson, Bridgette, Larry
  • Smarter Than You Know: Ally, Bridgette, Casey
  • What’s Up With Tutu?: Tutu, Bridgette

Season 1/ Episode 3 “Half a Sheet Cake & a Blue-Raspberry Slushie”

How does one bring dreams to reality? Much less, know when a dream is feasible? Those are the questions Bridgette faces this episode.

Director(s) Leslye Headland
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw & Jess Dweck
Characters Introduced
George George Basil
Kit-Kat Kimberley Crossman
Craig Jeremy Shamos
Joe Blake Clark
  • Money Is a Major Issue: Bridgette
  • Finding Your Niche: Eliza, Nelson, Bridgette
  • The Escorting Business: Bridgette

Season 1/ Episode 4 “Deep-Dish Pizza & a Shot of Holy Water”

After being assaulted, Bridgette is trying to reclaim her inner bad ass, but people refuse to let her be great and validated.

Director(s) Leslye Headland
Writer(s) Karey Dornetto
Characters Introduced
Ken Matt Shively
Eddie Mark Webber
  • Can I Get Some Validation Here? A Win?!: Eliza, Tutu, Bridgette
  • Reclaiming My Time & My Power: Bridgette
  • You Don’t Respect Me At All Do You?: Rafi, Tutu, Nelson, Bridgette, Eliza

Season 1/ Episode 5 “Run, Bridgette, Run or Forty-Eight Burnt Cupcakes & Graveyard Rum”

Smilf sends us on some kind of trippy Groundhog Day scenario which leaves you wondering what of it all was canon?

Director(s) Amy York Rubin
Writer(s) Zach Strauss
Characters Introduced
Regina Gabrielle Maiden
Phil Gary Anthony Williams
Mo Paula Pell
  • Groundhog Father’s Day – Part 1: Ally, Bridgette, Rafi
  • Groundhog Father’s Day – Part 2: Eliza, Regina, Bridgette, Phil
  • Groundhog Father’s Day – Part 3 and 4: Rafi, Nelson, Tutu, Mo, Bridgette

Season 1/ Episode 6 “Chocolate Pudding & a Cooler of Gatorade”

Disappointments come all around and Bridgette finds herself being everyone’s go-to person.

Director(s) Amy York Rubin
Writer(s) Sarah L. Jones and Mel Shimkovitz
Characters Introduced
Angie (Rafi’s Mom) Marabina Jaimes
Edmond Donald Li
  • My Mother, My Weakness: Rafi
  • Seeing Edmond: Tutu
  • Searching For Purpose: Tutu, Bridgette, Ally

Season 1/ Episode 7 “Family-Sized Popcorn & a Can of Wine”

Epigenetics is the word of the day as Tutu, Bridgette, and maybe even Larry, have a bit of a bad day.

Director(s) Frankie Shaw
Writer(s) Scott King
  • Epigenetics: Tutu, Eliza, Larry, Bridgette
  • I Need A Win Here: Tutu, Eliza, Larry, Bridgette, Joe

Season 1/ Episode 8 “Mark’s Lunch & Two Cups of Coffee.”

In what some may find a triggering episode, Bridgette seeks to get to the root of some of her problems: the father who molested her – repeatedly.

Director(s) Frankie Shaw
Writer(s) Frankie Shaw
Characters Introduced
Richard David DeBeck
Young Bridgette Jordana Rose
Therapist Stacey Moseley
  • My Dad Touched My Vagina: Bridgette, Tutu
  • Date With Daddy – Preparation: Bridgette, Tutu
  • Date with Daddy: Tutu, Bridgette, Nelson, Eliza

Season 2, Episode 1 “Shit Man, I’ve Literally Failed”

Season 2 of SMILF begins in tragedy, yet with death may come new life for Tutu and Bridgette.

Director(s) Frankie Shaw
Writer(s) Scott King
Air Date (Online) 1/3/2019
Introduced This Episode
Sheila Mindy Sterling
  • Daddy Isn’t Here: Bridgette
  • Goodbye Joe: Bridgette, Tutu, Joe, Larry
  • This One Is For You Ma!: Tutu, Bridgette

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