Collected Quotes: Peace from Broken Pieces – How to Get Through What You’re Going Through
“[…] lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. Lives fall apart when the foundation upon which they were built needs to be relaid. Lives fall apart, not because God is punishing us for what we have or have not done. Lives fall apart because they need to. They need to because they…
“[…] lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt. Lives fall apart when the foundation upon which they were built needs to be relaid. Lives fall apart, not because God is punishing us for what we have or have not done. Lives fall apart because they need to. They need to because they weren’t built the right way in the first place.”
— “Chapter 1: Here Is Also There.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 1 – 2
“[…] I felt like his therapist, not a potential lover.”
— “Chapter 2: The Walking Wounded.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 16
“[…] I not only had a distorted concept of God, I had a dysfunctional relationship with God. I learned to pray to God for things, not about things, promising to gain God’s favor by what I would do or stop doing. I had no real idea about what, who, or where God was. I only knew that when I thought I needed God, I mean really needed God to help me, God was nowhere to be found.”
— “Blind in One Eye… Can’t See Out of the Other.” Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You’re Going Through – Page 55
“On the way to get away from where you are, you can run so fast that you miss the blessings along the way. By the time you realize that you have missed them, a major portion of your life has taken place without you.”
— “The Divine Setup – Intro.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 82
“When you feel unprotected, unsupported and unprepared to take care of yourself, your insides will feel as if you have been through a train wreck. The best way to describe the experience is that you are having a head-on bloody collision between your wannabe and your can never be.”
— “Ain’t Nobody’s Prisoner – Intro.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 99
“God can only do for you what God can do through you.”
— “Ain’t Nobody’s Prisoner.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 102
“Oprah, an excellent interviewer, asked me a number of probing questions. The one that really caught my attention was ‘How do you know when you have healed an issue?’ From a deep place within my gut I responded, ‘When you can tell the story and it doesn’t bring up any pain, you know it is healed.’”
— “Pushed to the Breaking Point.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 137
“Until and unless you know that you are enough just the way you are, you will always be driven to look for more. Knowing that you are enough is a function of consciousness. Your enough-ness develops in direct proportion to the relationship you have with your true identity. Until you wholeheartedly believe in your own worth, in spite of your accomplishments and possessions, there will be a void in your spirit.”
— “Pushed to the Breaking Point.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 144
“Very often we claim to know something. We get an idea about what to do or not do, yet, for some reason our behavior doesn’t change. At times, we just can’t seem to do what we know. This is known as mental healing. Something has shifted in your thinking, but it has not reach the other levels of your being – the heart and the spirit. Mental healing occurs quite often, and it is not a complete healing. It is not enough to shift or change the long-standing influence of an inherited pathology or way of being. In order to change your response to a pathological form of behavior, healing must take place on three levels of being – intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. Not until this level of healing has occurred will your behavior change.”
— “Me and Mickey Mouse.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 159
“Sometimes when you’re healing your patterns and pathologies, the people watching you mistakenly come to the conclusion that there is something terribly wrong with you. There is something wrong; it’s just not what they think it is. Few of us understand how hurtful it is to be judged and criticized when you are on a learning curve or in the midst of a healing crisis. You would think that those closest to you would want to be helpful, supportive, nurturing and encouraging. Instead, because they don’t know what they are looking at, they make snide comments, offhand jokes, they talk about you in front of your face and behind your back and because you are healing you can’t just shake it off. Very often the very thing they judge you for is the very thing you’re healing and their insensitivity only makes it worse.”
— “Me and Mickey Mouse.“ Peace From Broken Piece – Page 161 – 162
“I was enslaved to the pattern rather than empowered by the purpose.”
— “Me and Mickey Mouse.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 163
“I had for too long given away my power and my voice. I had aligned myself with a process that did not honor me [and] I had trained people to believe that I would go along with anything.”
— “Me and Mickey Mouse.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 164
“I had surrendered too much of myself to doing things and not enough to being myself.”
— “Be Still and Know.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 172
“For a moment, I entertained the notion of feeling sorry for him and making excuses for him. […] After five minutes of that train of thought, I slapped back into reality. […] My friend Shaheerah reminded me that there comes a point where a person’s psycho-social history is of little or no consequence. There comes a moment when you simply have to say no the their behavior, their attitude, and whatever else it is that they do that causes you harm.”
— “The Soul Sisters.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 208
“We must learn not to give up when requirements are not met or when commitments are broken. To do so is a refusal to allow mistakes to be corrected and a demonstration of an unwillingness to forgive yourself or anyone else who needs forgiveness.”
— “Truth and Consequences – Intro.” Peace From Broken Piece – Page 224
“[…] I just wanted to be left alone to feel what was going on inside of me.”
— “Standing in Grace.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 295
“I was determined not to be defeated, but the depletion of my heart and mind could not, would not be denied.”
— “Standing in Grace.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 299-300
“I have discovered that life doesn’t actually knock you down. It does, however, provide you with many opportunities to evaluate your standing in life: what you stand on, what you stand for, how you stand within yourself and for yourself. When your standing is weak, you don’t get knocked down, you fall down. You trip over the fallacies and fantasies that you have created or inherited. You slip on your dysfunctional puzzle pieces and your distorted sense of self [and] sometimes, if you are lucky, you fall when no one is looking, so you can limp away and lick your wounds privately. More often than not, though, you fall in front of people and [are exposed] to the spectators who are doing their best not to laugh at you. Those who do not laugh, but rush to help you up, often have no idea that your ego is more bruised than your knees.”
— “Starting Over.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 283
“Sometimes when you fall down, you just have to lie still, and hope that no one runs over you. If they don’t and you lay there long enough, taking care to be very still, breathing slowly, refusing to whine, God will lift you and perform a soul surgery.
— “Life and Death – Intro.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 252
“I had helped so many people, invested in so many others, [and] now that I needed help, I had nowhere to go.”
— “Unfinished Business.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 246
“If this process does not give you life, it will steal your life.”
— “Me and Mickey Mouse.” Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You’re Going Through – Page 156
“When you don’t know who you are, chances are you don’t know what you want. When you don’t know what you want, there is no chance for you to get it.”
— “Me and Mickey Mouse – Intro.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 148
“Denial takes on many forms. Silence is one of many.”
— “The Personal Lie.” Peace Peace from Broken Pieces: How to Get Through What You’re Going Through – Page 130
“[…] The personal lie. Everyone has one: it is a story that we tell ourselves about who we are and what we do and do not deserve in life. Your personal lie is a function of all of the broken pieces of your puzzle-all of the elements of your history, all of your experiences, all that you have been taught about yourself merging with all that you have made up about yourself.”
— “The Personal Lie.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Pages 116-117
“We want so desperately to be where our children are, to understand what they feel, to do everything possible for them. However, we must know our limits. Often there comes a point when we simply do not have what our children need.”— “The Divine Setup.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 94
“I was a neglected child. There was a persistent and consistent ignoring of my need for nurturing, encouragement, education, and protection. Other than to correct or punish me for some act of childhood innocence, I was categorically rejected [and] I’m still not sure if it was active, meaning they meant to do it, or passive, meaning they didn’t know how not to do it.”
— “Terrirtorial Invasion.“ Peace From Broken Peaces – Page 67
“On the way to get away from where you are, you can run so fast that you miss the blessings along the way. By the time you realize that you have missed them, a major portion of your life has taken place without you.”
— “The Divine Setup – Intro.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 82
“Children will love the most imbalanced people and adapt to the most dysfunctional situations.”
— “Territorial Invasion.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 77
“It is one thing to get beat down. It’s another thing when your beat-down is known to someone else—someone you love. Someone you think cares about you. When someone you care about watches your beat-down and doesn’t help you, it feels like a betrayal, and the memory of it stays with you.”
— “From the Pot into… a Bigger Pot.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 30
“[…] when I thought I was experiencing true love, […] what I was actually experiencing was self-abuse and self-denial.”
— “The Walking Wounded.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 21
“To be a good fighter, you have to be stripped down to nothing. A fighter is trained to forget what they know and who they are outside of the ring. Once a fighter is stripped down, they can be built up by one voice; The trainer’s voice. And it is assumed that the trainer has the fighter’s best interest in mind.”
— “Blind in One Eye… Can’t See Out The Other.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 46
“[…] I was learning how to live a lie. I am not referring here to the “open your mouth and don’t tell the truth” kind of lying. I am referring to the “see what is going on and act like you don’t see it, lie-to-yourself” kind of lie; the silently brutal kind of lying that distorts your sense of self and worth. What I learned from the pillars of stability in my family was the “act like you are okay and everything is fine” kind of lie that is the foundation of emotional dishonesty and self-deception.”
— “Blind in One Eye… Can’t See Out The Other.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 51-52
“When you want and need something as bad as I wanted and needed to be loved, you will allow yourself to believe anything at all.”
— “Chapter 2: The Walking Wounded.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 16
“The more unlovable I felt, the uglier I believed I was; The uglier I believed I was, the more unworthy I thought I was in my own mind; The more unworthy I thought I was, the harder I held on to what I thought I did not deserve.”
— “Chapter 2: The Walking Wounded.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 14
“When he looked at me, I thought he could see me. In my mind, that meant he accepted me, and I fell in love with the idea about him.”
— “Chapter 2: The Walking Wounded.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 14
“[…] We wanted to love each other. We really tried to love each other, and on a good day, we were convinced that we did love each other.”
— “Chapter 2: The Walking Wounded.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 11
“The good news is that when you have something to do, life will not allow you to move forward until you do it. The bad news is the same.”
— “Chapter 1: Here Is Also There.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 3
“It is often difficult to identify the exact moment that your life falls apart. In most cases, it is not a one-shot deal. […] If you ask most people who have had the experience of losing everything they love or believe in, they will probably say it was not one telephone call or one letter, one revelation or realization that caused the collapse of life as they knew it. […] my life fell apart one piece at a time. Piece by piece; one experience, one situation, and one circumstance at a time, until I found myself standing in the midst of a heap of broken promises, splintered relationships, and shattered dreams. […][And] you see what is happening. You know what is happening. And you want anything other than what is happening to happen.”
— “Chapter 1: Here Is Also There.“ Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 1
“What is it that would make a creature as fierce, majestic and powerful as a lion is, subject itself to the intimidation of a man, a whip and a chair? The lion has been taught to forget what it is.”
— “Chapter 1: Here Is Also There.” Peace From Broken Pieces – Page 19 (e-Book)
