Lea noting her marriage was a mistake
Lea: It was a mistake

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  1. Indeed Amari, the show provides its audience with an immersion experience about autism, and it is no coincidence that you confess in your review how often you can’t understand Shaun and might feel frustrated about that.

    This is very true to real life, in which you find yourself often in exact the same spot when confronted with an individual on the spectrum. A situation that is furthermore complicated by the many of these individuals being quite clueless about the condition and frustrated themselves. Not all of them have the insight on ASD and the access to research literature I can provide to fill some blanks.

    Thus, if we are to take a message with us from the show, it very well might what you just wrote: don’t expect others to be on common ground but allow them and yourself to explore the territory in between.

    Of course, this is easier to say than to do and we reached this moment of clarity after watching three and a half seasons.

    Lea parents will be exposed to Shaun with little to prepare them for the experience (although we might assume that the already know of his autism in general by Lea).

    In general, I would expect that the writers would use the parents to address some more of the prejudices against people on the spectrum, we haven’t seen much of that since Dr. Han and Ethan Murphy. Personally, I find it about time that the show again acknowledges that we are still confronted with this almost daily and that St. Bonaventure has been a safe space for Shaun since Chief Lim is on the helm

    Though, the synopsis of “Parenting” telling us the patient of the week is a teenage gymnast suffering from over-training, probably struggling to live up to the expectations of her parents, we might also see Mom & Dad Dilallo giving their daughter a hard time, too, because the overarching theme of the episode might be emancipation and freeing yourself from pressures other lay on you (which in case of Lea would be a nice mirroring of Shaun’s emancipation from Glassman’s overprotection mid-season 1, it even could work for Lim, who feels the pressure to keep up the façade of being unaffected of the pressure of her job).

  2. It seems we’re all a little late this week… 😉

    Amari, I was quite stirred by your musings on Shaun this time, and it wasn’t only for that you pondered about positive effects his ASD has while in social media he is mostly misunderstood and condemned for his behavior.

    It also resonated with some of my more recent encounters of neurotypical vs. autistic life; for example a friend implying I could not understand their viewpoint because of my ASD or that I should quit dating and concentrate on becoming a fully trained psychologist since little money but a developmental disorder was a total knock-out criteria for women.

    In short, a positive outlook on ASD was welcome right now. Yet, it also went deeper because your reasoning boiled it down to fear and shame and how it bogs people down. It is quite ironic that while I have ASD myself, I obviously adapted to much neurotypical ways to see that for myself before I dated another women with ASD, which resulted in a totally different sort of communication: asking questions without the fear of being judged, without the shame to be different. This was an exhilarating experience for both of us that was only possible because we gave ourselves a suitable environment for it… Perhaps I should act a little more autistic again once in a while. 😉

    But speaking of Shaun being given the environment to ask questions, looking at the exasperated faces of Andrews and Park, their patience with Shaun disclosing very personal information might grow short soon. Or he might run into serious trouble with someone not included in this St. Bonaventure-bubble, for example Lea’s parents, which reportedly have an issue with Shaun next episode. How this ex-husband was introduced low-key felt to me like a prelude, providing necessary context for something else.

    I really enjoyed that the writers did not turn the ex-husband into a soap opera (at least not yet, note that he has Lea’s current address) but instead used it as an effective hook for the greater theme of change and adaption to it. That was the show at its best, especially since the writers managed to weave in references to episodes way back to seasons 1 and 2, reminding us how much has changed for the characters in four years:

    Lim giving out orders for extra trauma calls in the ER because of people going wild was reminiscent of 210 “Quarantine Part One” when she informed her hook-up Melendez of managing the ER on Christmas. Later, Lim was putting yet another pizza in the oven (313 “Sex And Death”), although literally this time, because after dealing with two deadly viruses she is really alone.

    Claire telling the venture capitalist to plan for a divorce and get the hell out addressed once again all the trauma she had to go through while caring for her bipolar mother.

    Morgan telling Claire “I like being your bestie. Slumber party?” was referring to the character’s introduction in 114 “She” with “… you and I are not gonna be friends, hanging out, having sleepovers, …” – How far these two have come, indeed.

    And finally, Claire and Enrique having Turkish Coffee re-enacted the conversations about being friends and changing feelings Shaun and Lea had in 205 “Carrots”.

    Probably, there was more I did not catch at first glance, but I guess it already demonstrates how much care and thought went into this reflection on how people and personal relationships change over time.

    Now, since Morgan accidentally discovered an earthquake kit in Claire’s trunk last season, I’m just wondering if there is any significance to them finding a diamond ring in the patient’s bowls… 😉

    1. I find it funny you said, “there was more I did not catch at first glance” when it often appears you know this show well enough to write future episodes for it and maintain, if not surpass, the quality expected.

      And I’m glad I was able to give you a positive outlook. Thanks to you and Emily, alongside other shows I watch that feature characters with ASD, I feel like it’s molding me so that I can understand, in theory, how to act and adapt with someone who is on the spectrum. Also, through the show, I think it pushes people who don’t commonly interact with people with ASD to confront their stereotypes. For while Shaun isn’t a one size fit all model, through seeing how many of the doctor’s changed talking to Shaun, you are pushed to understand the ignorant place many formerly operated from.

      This is acknowledging there were multiple times when I just couldn’t make sense of what Shaun is doing, but between forgetting certain moments in the series, just due to the sheer amount of stuff I watch, and there still feeling like a huge gap in Shaun’s storyline, I thank you for your grace.

      Especially since, with you filling in why Shaun acts the way he does, the more I realize the only thing that makes Shaun seem different is, as said before, is he doesn’t operate with shame or ill-intentions in mind. Which, again, isn’t to say this is universal, but thinking about your comment about what your friend said to you, it really does make me think of how much value Shaun’s point of view presents. Because, just look at all that Dr. Lim avoids, Claire struggles to speak on, and how people like Morgan mask things with sarcastic humor. Say what you will about Shaun, but cutting through all that and getting to the point is why in this show, and Atypical, you see women like and love men with ASD. Yes, sometimes the brutal honesty can be a bit much, but at least you can know where you stand and how your partner feels. Thus, you get that ideal intimacy of knowing what they say is true.

      Speaking on the Lea situation, I both fear and am curious about how her parents will react to Shaun. He clearly loves her, but both for Shaun and the other person, there is a need to willingly adjust. Which, honestly, is required when meeting anyone new, but with Shaun a bit more set in some of his ways, the only difference is a little more patience and dropping your assumptions, and explaining why you need certain things.

      And the more I think about it, the more I really feel pushed to realize that the type of communication Shaun asks for, maybe even demands, is the human decency we all want. That if you like things a certain way, explain why to me rather than expect me to follow suit. For the other person to take note, they just met me, I just met them, and if we are to get along, you have to catch me up. Don’t just expect me to pick up on body language or social cues, we come from different backgrounds, cultures, and child-rearing methods. We may both speak the same language but could be operating on a completely different dialect. So there has to be an effort, from both sides. Not just an expectation that the handful of things that make us the same should make things click and if it does not, that means the other person is weird, wrong, and thus should be rejected.

      As said in a recent episode of Call Me Kat:

      Just because you couldn’t relate to me, doesn’t mean something was wrong with me.
      — Call Me Kat (1.4)

    2. You’re right – Claire did seem to like to make other people happy. It’s been interesting to watch her develop over the course of 4 seasons. I think the writers have done a good job having her character grow and change. “Pick and choose her battles” – Interesting way to phrase it, yet quite true!

    3. Andreas, your memory never ceases to amaze me! I got a chuckle out of Morgan’s comment to Claire about the slumber party, but I didn’t realize it was referring to a comment she had made in the first season. Nice catch!

  3. Hi Amari! Sorry it took me so long to comment! I just watched this episode tonight. But I really enjoyed your review – excellent and in-depth as always!! I completely agree about you assessment of Enrique and Olivia. I was looking forward to more of Dr. Andrews through Olivia. Oh well. And I forgot all about Enrique being an actual character until this episode. To me he’s been in the background like one of the nurses until he asked Claire out. Speaking of which, lol “being Claire’s love interest is a sign your character is at the end of their storyline”!

    Claire does seem to have grown, from how she is more like friends with Morgan then just tolerating Morgan in her life, to how she seems to be moving towards more of a friendship with Dr. Lim like you pointed out. I also took note (and liked) how Claire firmly told the husband of her cancer patient to file for divorce from his wife. I think the old Claire would have been much nicer to him and pleaded with him to spend more time with the cancer patient. She doesn’t seem to take any garbage any more, even from patient’s husbands.

    I enjoyed reading your analysis of Shaun’s storyline, and how you appreciated Shaun’s auitism. One thing I get out of reading your reviews is more insight into the episode, and the parts you wrote about Shaun brought more depth and made me think more about how autism effects the way Shaun does things and how he thinks that are completely different then neuro-typical people, just like my daughter does, even though she is much lower-functioning then Shaun is. It was definitely food for thought!

    1. You know, I didn’t think about that part of Claire’s growth. Formerly she almost exclusively was geared towards keeping the peace and seemingly bringing everyone together. But with the divorce, as you noted, it seems she has taken a turn. Not in a bad way, but I think one could say she doesn’t need other people to be happy anymore. For whether she no longer wishes to live vicariously or find purpose in bringing others joy, she is starting to – I wouldn’t say harden but pick and choose her battles.

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